addendum

i forgot to mention yesterday that i have been showing sign of quite obvious nervousness as i have been scratching and rubbing my head almost constantly. Now when i touch it, it does feel quite sore. I have known that i was doing it and havent now tried to stop or wanted to infact.
On a better note this morning i gave my wife a hug, this hug lasted sometime and i didnt feel the need to pull away. I know it wont be this way every time but atleast it is a small start.